THINGS THAT ARE OK
- being in a relationship with someone and not wanting to have sex
- not being interested in sex at all
- being attracted to somebody’s gender but not sex (ex. liking people who identify as female but not “female-bodied”)
- loving 2 or more people at the same time
- liking both boys and girls
- liking somebody who is gender-neutral/gender-fluid
- liking someone despite their gender
- feeling like you were born in the wrong body
- identifying however you want
- wearing clothes that are not a part of the ‘gender construct’ (aka crossdressing)
- girls having penises
- boys having vaginas
- being unsure about your sexuality/identity
- being cis
- being heterosexual
- identifying as non-human or fictionkin
- asking people to use specific pronouns (they/their/them, ze/zer/zem, etc.)
THINGS THAT ARE NOT OK
- purposely misgendering or using the wrong pronouns to somebody
- telling them that how they feel is ‘wrong’
- mocking their identity
- treating somebody as a lesser being because of who they choose to be
- using offensive slurs
- telling them that they are just in denial
- asking personal questions about their genitalia or sex life (“if you’re a boy then why do you have a vagina?” etc)
- being too intrusive in general
